In my last post I likened momentum to a train, so the most effective way to stop bad momentum might be to jump from the train or run it off the tracks. But in that analogy what if you are the train and jumping isn’t an option. What if we have to literally bring the train to a stop and head it in a new direction? Stopping momentum isn’t easy and when it’s good momentum that’s a great thing, but when it’s bad, well… enough said.
I believe there are several groups of people where different strategies can be employed, but today let’s talk about folks, who for whatever reason, seem to make progress but inevitably hit a wall or the wheels come off. These people are talented, bright, self-starters. They are resilient; they get back up and try again and typically have a good attitude, but invariably nosedive over and over. It might be relationships or jobs, or businesses, but regardless of what it is there seems to be a hint of self-sabotage in their DNA. Do you know someone like this? Is this you? This is a fairly accurate description of me for much of my life. One of the common denominators about folks like this is they aren’t big on team. They are usually doing life alone. Not to say they aren’t likable and don’t have friends, they do, but there’s an aspect of how they do life that isn’t shared with many people.
I’m not going to break down the whole self-sabotage thing today and whether its fear or failure or fear of success. Whether it’s an identity issue or what you believe about yourself. I don’t have YOUR answer in this post but I am going to point you to it. Here it is:
- Are you ready to admit what you’re doing isn’t working so well? (this is #1 for a reason)
- Ask for help.
Your answer is waiting for you in your friends and family. Somehow we are so close to it, we can’t see the forest for the trees, but it is fairly obvious to those around us. Are you ready for a change, and do you have the courage to listen and apply what people who love you have to say? Listening to those who have my best interest in mind and letting them help me has changed my life for the better. It wasn’t easy, change never is, but it is so worth it! Go get ‘em!
To start over… To quit and begin again… to take a step backward to be able to take two forward. Whatever you call it, it’s hard to contemplate and even harder to do! Starting over seems so painful. For some reason there’s a sense of failure in that. You’ve got all this time, effort and energy that will literally go to waste if you start over, and for that reason most of us don’t or wont and our “pain” continues.
Every organization has a bloodstream. If you are the owner or are part of the senior management team in your organization, you are the life blood of that organization. You are the heart that is providing life giving sustenance. You control the atmosphere of the company with your vision, attitude and actions. You have a tremendous amount of influence in how the rest of your “body” (the organization) operates as well as how healthy it is.
We all have dreams and desires… things we’d like to do or become. Sometimes we hold on to these dreams and protect them or polish them. We spend months and years thinking about them and how great they would be to fulfill but something keeps us from actually attempting them. Something keeps us from getting started.
Recent Comments